Better Sensual Activity Through Outercourse: Expanding Sensual Horizons

Even those people who consistently enjoy good times in the bedroom wouldn't mind having even better sensual activity – and that's where a little attention to outercourse may come in handy. Although incorporating more outercourse into one's sensual life may take a little practice, the results can be well worth it. And since a happy sensual life generally improves a man's male organ health, it can be a "win" all around.

What is outercourse?

The term outercourse refers to sensual activity which does not involve penetration of either the female organ or the posterior. It is most often associated with "dry coupling," that is, an activity in which two people rub their sensual organs together while remaining clothed (a favorite activity of many young people who are just beginning to explore partner-based sensual activity). However, the actual definition of outercourse encompasses much more than this.

Because outercourse is any form of partner-based sensual activity in which the manhood does not enter the female organ or posterior, it includes oral sensual activity, mutual self-pleasuring, usage of sensual toys, sensual organ-to-sensual organ rubbing, fingering, sensual massage, "dirty talk," manual stimulation of the breasts and even good old-fashioned kissing.

"Real" sensual activity

Most couples already engage in some form of outercourse such as kissing, snuggling and pre-play. However, they may find they can achieve better sensual activity if they make outercourse a more important or prominent part of their sensual activities.

For most people, "having sensual activity" means inserting the male member into the female organ – and it's easy to see why. But people often experience better sensual activity if they take a broader view of coupling. When the goal is to achieve intimate bonding through physical contact, the couple can find satisfaction in extending the amount of outercourse before or after penetration – or even by not making penetration the ultimate goal of the activity.

Both can benefit.

When discussing outercourse, men often assume that this is something that's really only good for women. It's an accepted fact that, in most cases, men are more easily brought to release than are women. This is one of the reasons why a reasonable amount of pre-penetrative activity is often a way to ensure that both partners release during penetrative coupling: if the woman gets "warmed up" in advance, the man doesn't have to last as long once he has entered her.

But in fact, men can often enjoy outercourse with a partner as well. Many men can "edge" while they are self-pleasuring – that is, bring themselves near the point of release again and again before allowing themselves to dispense seed. By incorporating this "edginess" into sensual play with a partner, they can experience sustained stimulation while helping their partner also achieve release.

The big key to successful outercourse is to communicate – to tell the other partner what feels good and what doesn't, and to indicate when stimulation needs to momentarily stop and when it needs to start again. By concentrating on outercourse together, a couple can learn a great deal about their partner's bodies – and about their own.

Learning to communicate about one's needs and pleasures and finding out more about each other's bodies is all part of developing better sensual activity routines for a couple. Outercourse is but one step in this direction. Men should be aware that maintaining male organ health is also important in this area and so should use a superior male organ health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) daily. Sometimes a man's member becomes de-sensitized from rough handling, either through self-pleasuring or partner-based activity. A crème with acetyl L-carnitine, a neuroprotective ingredient, can help to restore diminished sensitivity and make manhood stimulation more pleasurable. Men should also check to see if the selected crème includes L-arginine, which is valuable in the production of nitric oxide – and therefore in helping to keep the blood flow to the member free and unimpeded.