Self-pleasuring: Your Number-One Stress Management Technique

Given half a chance, it’s likely that many men reading this article could easily list half a dozen or more things in their life that tend to cause them stress – money issues, relationship problems, sensual worries, in-law conflicts, workplace drama, sibling rivalries, political anxieties, etc. And those are just some of the big general topics, any one of which could have many much more specific sub-topics. Stress is far too big a part of many men’s lives, and it can have a negative impact on their general health, as well as on their male organ health, too. Thus, it really pays to take steps to limit stress as much as possible. There are numerous ways in which a person can try to mitigate stress; one of the more enjoyable ways is through self-pleasuring.

Why self-pleasuring

Many a man has noticed that his whole body feels more relaxed and that his mood is enhanced after engaging in a pleasurable self-pleasuring session. Why does self-pleasuring help a guy to de-stress? Basically because sensual activity in all its forms, including self-pleasuring, tends to release dopamine (a chemical which relaxes the body and produces a sense of pleasure) as well as oxytocin, which helps a person better deal with anxiety.

But there are other ways that self-pleasuring can help de-stress a person. When a guy self-stimulates just before bed, he is much more relaxed and more likely to fall asleep more quickly – and that can be especially helpful if a man tends to lie awake tossing and turning at night thinking about work issues or other problems.

In addition, self-pleasuring often helps lower blood pressure, at least temporarily, and blood pressure tens to shoot up during high stress times.

Tips

Self-pleasuring alone is not likely to help a man totally manage his stress – and there certainly are times when a man simply does not have the luxury of self-gratifying. But for those interested in incorporating self-pleasuring into a stress management approach, the following may prove helpful.

Determine if it needs to be scheduled. For some men, the beauty of self-pleasuring is that it can be "slotted in" to his schedule at the spur of the moment. If he becomes aware of high tension, he can sneak away to the men’s room for a quickie and find instant relief. But some men benefit from scheduling it, especially if they are going through a period of consistently high stress. In such cases, they may make it part of their daily wind-down routine or save it for bedtime. They may also schedule it in for, say, the middle of the afternoon, using the promise of a self-pleasuring break as enticement for them to soldier on with their work until break time is here.

Leave the guilt behind. Although there is much greater acceptance of self-pleasuring today, many men still feel some degree of guilt when they self-stimulate. This can diminish the degree of stress relief they feel from self-pleasuring. Such men may find benefit in reminding themselves that almost every man self-fondles and that it is a perfectly normal activity. Some may find it helpful to repeat a few affirmations – "I am a man, and self-pleasuring is one way I celebrate my manhood" or "I deserve to self-stimulate; I am using self-pleasuring not just as a source of pleasure (of which I am deserving) but as a way to maintain my health" – before starting to self-gratify.

Enjoy it. The more that a man is able to feel uninhibited while self-fondling, the more likely he is to de-stress. If in a private place, he should to moan, shout, curse, wriggle and writhe to his heart’s content.

Self-pleasuring can help to relieve stress, but too aggressive a style can result in rawness – and the need for a first rate male organ health creme (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin). Select a crème with both a high end emollient (like shea butter) and a natural hydrator (like vitamin E) to soothe overworked member skin. And one with L-carnitine can help protect manhood sensation so it is not diminished by aggressive fondling.