How to Have Better Intimacy - A Couples Guide to Vibrating Toys
Adult toys can add a new dimension to a couple's shared activities; some men may be surprised to learn that a vibrating toy can be used to make his tool an extremely happy male organ. Because vibrating toys have for so long been thought of as primarily a woman's toy, many men don't think about experimenting with these toys themselves. But by taking just a little bit of gentle male organ care, a man and his partner can both undergo an experience that, yes, gives fresh meaning to "good vibrations." Here’s how to have better intimacy using a vibrating toy together.
His and hers
The couple that is interested in making mutual use of vibrating toys may want to consider investing in two toys; this is especially recommended if either or both are intended to be used for back door stimulation. If couples opt to share one device, it should be cleaned after back door stimulation and before being used by the partner.
Aside from possible hygiene reasons, separate vibrating toys may also be desirable for a number of reasons:
- If one partner is more experienced with vibrating toys and/or dildos, he or she may be ready for a toy of a larger size than the "newbie."
- Shape can play a role. Some men may want a round or egg-shaped device for rolling around his male organ and sack, while his partner may desire something more manhood-shaped. Men wishing to use the toy to massage the prostate may prefer a shaft-shaped device that has a bit of a curve to it, which allows for easier access to the target.
- Couples may simply want to both engage in vibrational activities at the same time.
Male options
Although the term vibrating toy typically conjures up pictures of an oversized tool, these items come in many different shapes and sizes. In addition to the male organ shaped traditional style, variations include:
- Male organ ring vibrating toys that slip over the male organ and/or the balls and look just like ordinary male organ rings – but provide a pleasing electro-stimulating effect.
- Vibrating male organ sleeves that fit over most or all of the shaft and provide intensely pleasurable stimulation throughout the shaft and glans.
- Finger vibrating toys that fit right over the finger and therefore provide great flexibility and ease of movement.
- Handheld devices – often egg-shaped or otherwise designed to fit basically in the palm of the hand – that are also very useful for reaching "hard to get to" places.
- Prostate stimulators that are specifically designed to help a man (or his partner) reach the prostate and allow for maximum stimulation; some of these are built so that once inserted, they can largely be left there so a man can get the effects "hands free."
Double the pleasure
Many couples enjoy using vibrating toys together, either each one stimulating him/herself or each other. When using the device on the other partner, it's important to remember a few things:
- Start slowly, especially if one partner is inexperienced. There's no need to rush.
- Take time to find the right speed at the right time. Speeds can be adjusted, so work with the partner to find the speed that is most pleasurable. This is especially true when working on back door stimulation, as slight variations in speed can have a big effect.
- Communicate. Moans and sighs are good, but sometimes a person needs to provide specific instructions on where to place the vibrating toy, how much pressure to use and what speed to try.
- One other important tip to keep that vibrating toy-fueled male organ happy: regularly use a top notch