How to Survive a Divorce: 12 Tips from my Personal Experience

1. If you have children, try to keep the marriage

You will definitely come back to this with thoughts and doubt if you do not try everything possible to save the family.Diverge anyway?

Remember that you and your ex-spouse will have to communicate as parents for many years. In general, divorcing paired with children is not more complicated, but simpler: more motivation to behave in a civilized manner, not to lose heart and not become softer.

2. Do not be greedy, but do not adjust

Protect your interests calmly and fairly, do not be guided by insults and revenge If it's possible, try to make divorce process as peaceful as possible, you can file for divorce online if you want to save your money on college. Remember that life is long. This is the person you have chosen and loved. Some never in their life have a great love or a wedding, but you still throw a bouquet and cut a white cake with one knife with this "insane", "monster" or as you now call it in conversations with third parties.

3. Do not discuss divorce with everyone

Some people will constantly try to start a conversation with you about what is happening, about your partner, about other divorced couples. Someone will do this without malicious intent, sincerely believing that you need it to speak out and cry.

But you do not need it. You do not want to cook in this broth from morning to night. Continuous meditation will devour you and weaken you. Live today. Close the door tightly and do not pop into this closet anymore.

4. Preserve dignity

Do not think that after quarrels, squabbles and scandals you have nothing to lose and you can throw curses after you or humiliate yourself. There is always something to lose, especially when it comes to dignity. No matter how damp it was at the bottom of this terrible pit, no matter how much the cemetery smelled and how disgusting the idea of??continuing life was, do not try to dig the earth and eat worms, get out as soon as possible.

5. If it’s really bad, go to a good therapist

Only to a doctor who has the goal of curing you and is able to achieve this. The terrible thing is to get caught in such a delicate moment to such a psychologist who ribs you to the couch with digging in childhood and in the past in general. You’ll get stuck, as in a swamp, and lower the money to block the beginning of a new life.

6.Do not quarrel with other family members

When it is convenient for us (namely, when we are looking for a reason to allow ourselves harshness), we say that life is short. But do not be fooled by this, repeat as a mantra: life is long. Do not scatter people, especially when it comes to the grandparents of joint children.

This period has simply ended. A new one begins. You do not need all these walks along the corridors of the past.