10 Thoughtful Open Ended Questions for Kids
Every day, when I pick my son up from school I will ask the classic "how was school today?" question. His response: good/fun/okay. One word response, then silence.
Throughout the day I’ll ask him questions about the things we see, do and eat in hopes that I’ll create a teaching moment, kill time in our schedule, or get him to stop asking what is for snack for the 30th time. Again, I usually receive short answers that don’t take much thought.
The problem I realize is how I am asking the questions. If it can be answered with one word then it’s not thought provoking enough and I shouldn’t expect anything more from my child. (Unless you try these thoughtful yes no questions, they will make you think!) If I ask an open ended question, make him truly think, then I’ll get more elaborate and informative answers that can spark a discussion between the two of us!
Next time you want to learn a little more about your child, try these 10 open ended questions for kids
- What was your favorite part of the day? Why?
This question is good for after school or at bedtime when you’re reflecting on the day. Focusing on the positive can also be helpful especially if they/you had a rough day and need to feel something to be grateful for!
2. What makes your friends nice?
Discover more about the friends in your child’s life. Spark discussion by asking names, what they do together and what makes your own child a good friend.
3. If you were me for the day, what would you do?
Their answer to this question can give you an opportunity to be silly--do the activity they said they would do if they were you!
4. If you could go anywhere, where would it be?
Ask them why they chose the place, what would they do/see/eat there. If they’re not sure, look it up and discover new places together!
5. What is the funniest thing you’ve seen?
Find what tickles your kid’s funny bone. Maybe gross or barely laugh worthy, but you’ll learn what makes your kid happy.
6. What is something you’re really good at?
If they answer with "I don’t know" or "nothing," instil confidence in your child and list all of the things you think they’re great at--playing checkers, being a big sister, a helper in the kitchen, etc.
7. What makes you feel loved?
You may be surprised with their answer! Maybe you thought it was all the kisses you give them, but they answer with quality time together. Make a note of it and try to do more of it.
8. What are you most scared of?
Ask them why. Maybe they’ve had an experience to cause this fear that you were unaware of or it’s a concept you didn’t realize your child was ready to have a discussion about.
9. What’s the hardest part about going to school?
It’s unrealistic to think your kid doesn’t struggle during the day. Asking them about it let’s them know it’s okay if something is hard. Follow up questions about what they think you could do together that would make it easier.
10. If you could talk to any animal, which animal would it be?
What questions would you ask the animal? What would you do together? Not all questions have to be serious--tell them your answer too!
If you have children of different ages, you may need to reword your questions for them to understand better. You know your kids best, so ask more serious questions when it feels natural. You’re trying to learn more about your children so be aware of your reactions to ensure they feel safe responding and remember to have fun with the silly questions