Discussing Self-Pleasuring with a Partner – Sensual Confessions

Let’s face it: guys engage rather frequently in self-pleasuring, and every woman knows it. Yet despite the fact that this is a prevalent activity among the male gender, it’s not something that is easily discussed with a female partner. Some men, however, do get this obvious fact off their chests and many find doing so has rewards. While open confessions about self-pleasuring are not necessarily directly connected to physical male organ health, sharing this information can often improve a man’s emotional health and create a closer bond between him and a partner.

Does everyone do it?

It’s often said that "every" man self-stimulates, and this is largely true. While there is no reliable study that has shown that 100% of men engage in solo pleasure (whether that means regularly or once in their lives), most studies do demonstrate that it is a common activity among men.

For example, a 2002 study of college students found that 98% of the male respondents reported that they had indeed sensually fondled themselves at some time. (By contrast, only 44% of female respondents admitted to self-pleasuring.) While 98% is not "all," it’s close enough to demonstrate a tendency for self-pleasuring in the male population.

Why bring it up?

So men stimulate themselves. Why should a guy necessarily bring it up with a partner? There are several reasons:

• It can be pre-emptive. Many men have a fear of being "caught" self-pleasuring. By acknowledging that he self-stimulates and discussing how often, in what circumstances, etc., a man can help to decrease the chances of being caught with his trousers down – or, at the very last, make that occurrence less embarrassing than it might be otherwise.
• It can be educational. Many women don’t understand why men fondle themselves or why they may indulge in it as often as some men do. Talking about it can help a man educate his partner so that she knows:
• Self-pleasuring is a great reliever of stress for a man.
• Sometimes a firm organ is so insistent that it simply demands to be handled.
• Frequent seed release, through self-applied means or partner activity, is thought to be healthy. It keeps the tool in good working order and is linked to a decreased chance of prostate issues.
• Fondling oneself helps a guy learn how his equipment works so he can use that knowledge when in bed with another person to be a more skillful lover.
• It can lead to new sensual experiences. Talking about self-stimulation can open the pathway to discussing the sensual dreams and desires of both partners.
• It can help bond two people. Sharing something secret demonstrates that a person trusts another person, deepening the bond between them.

Bring it up appropriately.

It helps to figure out the best time to bring up the subject, and this is something that depends very much on the man’s comfort level and the partner’s personality. For example, some women might find themselves engaged if a man remarks after a bout of glorious coupling, "That puts my daily self-pleasuring to shame" and then leads into a discussion of this pastime. Others might find that insensitive to the sensual activity the two have just shared. A guy should definitely give thought to the best way to broach the subject.

After these confessions, some partners may want to witness an exhibition of a man’s self-pleasuring technique, so he should make sure his tool is in good condition. Regular use of a quality male organ health cream (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) is an excellent way to maintain proper manhood health. It’s advisable to use a cream that contains a combination of a high-end emollient (think Shea butter) and a natural hydrator (such as vitamin E), which soothes and moisturizes the skin, making the tool stand out when displayed. Also important: The cream should contain vitamin A. Why? Because this vitamin has anti-bacterial properties that do a bang-up job at helping decrease that unwanted odor that can cling to a guy’s equipment.