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Online Dating Mistakes!

Author: James Schonfeld
by James Schonfeld
Posted: Jan 05, 2016

You have decided it is time to try online dating services. You have even decided that an adult site is for you. You have looked around. Read carefully what each site offers, checked out how much it costs to join to have all the benefits at your service, perused the profiles on the site to see how many profiles seem genuine, that the ratio of men to women is reasonable (you will always find more men than women on these sites) and now you are ready to go!!!

You have worked out what you want to say in your profile, how you want to present yourself online, picked the photos you are going to share on your profile and when it all comes together you look at your profile, you get all excited, there will be women knocking down your door to be with you. A month passes you by and ‘nothing’. Not a wink, not an email, very few views and you start wondering why???

I want to share the mistakes I made when I first started on these sites. I thought my profile was perfect but when I truly was honest with myself, I was wasting my time with what I was offering.

Here’s what I was doing wrong, I hope this helps you prepare your profile straight up better than I did:

Arrogance! I said what I thought women wanted to know. I was arrogant, blunt like I was expecting women to stand to attention and fall over backwards to contact me. Was I in it to win it? No! Why would someone want to contact me? This led me to my next downfall - Unrealistic expectations. WOW, oh yes! I wanted it all and I was out to tell all the women on the site! I thought if I threw out a wide net, I would catch someone. How wrong was I. Be realistic, be respectful and definitely be honest about what you want. And of course, the broader my expectations where the more I was being Vague in what I wanted. Women want you to be direct, let them know what you are searching for so if you want a women who is a one on one sexual partner make sure you say this not cover every opportunity out there.

Don’t worry about their past. I was always quizzing women about their past. Wanting to know how active they were sexually not realizing that all I was doing was shutting them out and also creeping them out. I showed them that I wasn’t really interested in them but what they have done with others. I also realized after some time that, Asking her for more pictures was an immediate "creeper" alert.

The dumbest feature on any site is the ‘wink’ so Don’t "wink." If you’re in it to win it, then why are you wasting time and money by doing the online equivalent of the cheesy pickup line? I spent the first few days reading profiles, winking, thinking that by the next week I would have a harem of women to choose from. How wrong was I and only when I realized that I had to show some self confidence in myself and write did I start to get a response. This then lead me to the "Don’t be impatient" stage. Has it been a couple days since you first emailed her, why hasn’t she responded yet? Don’t sweat it. She may be busy, or working long hours, or taking time to craft an answer, or just plain ignoring you altogether. Wish I knew this earlier on. I expected women to be punctual and respond straight away and early on made the mistake of sending a second and even third email.

The first and foremost thing is to not expect them to fall into your lap. Very few women will contact you, so you have to make the first, think carefully about how you approach it, think about how you are going to get their attention and then how are you going to make certain they want to know you better.

Most people are far more diverse than they communicate. The more common ground you have on paper, the more likely you’ll meet in person.

We all make mistakes when we try something for the first time. It will take you a few months to get your profile right and then a while to get how you email right too. Hopefully I have given you some useful tips to what not to do!!!

About the Author

James Schonfeld is well known for her many guides on Online dating service. He has also published articles that deal with Sexy Adult finder which have quite a following on the internet.

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