Flashy Versus Plain Engagement Ring Band: Which to Choose?

Though often overlooked in favour of the stone itself, the engagement ring band is an integral part of this type of jewel. Whether used as a ‘supporting actor’, the function of which is to enhance the brilliance and appearance of the gem, or as a plainer centrepiece, the metal strip which goes around the finger is an essential component of any wedding or engagement jewel – so much so that many people continue to debate whether it is better for it to serve the former purpose or the latter.

In fact, while proponents of a large and gaudy gemstone continue to dominate the engagement jewellery market, the not entirely negligible demographic which prefers a plain and understated engagement ring band is still present, which explains both why so many jewellers – bespoke or otherwise – continue to invest in plain gold, silver or platinum bands, and why they continue to sell so well.

This article does not intend to give an answer to the eternal question of which of the two types of band is better; instead, we will simply speculate why a certain type of customer is likely to prefer one more than the other, and analysing what advantages and disadvantages each of them possesses. By doing so, we hope to help prospective buyers decide which type of band is best for their type of personality or character.

First Impressions Count

People who believe that first impressions do count will probably be drawn towards an engagement ring band topped by a large and flashy stone than by a plainer and duller-looking one. This is because this type of band is almost guaranteed to draw the attention (and, potentially, the envy) of friends, relatives, work colleagues and even strangers on the train. A large diamond or gemstone of any kind tends to stand out even from a distance, so people who want to be noticed and make an impact on first impression may lean towards this option instead of the plainer alternative.

The downside, of course, is that Western society is not yet entirely rid of some of the stereotypes of the mid-20th-century mindset, and as such a large and showy ring may be construed as a sign of vanity and shallowness. Couples who can overlook society’s preconceptions, however, should live happily ever after with a band of this type.

The Quiet Ones

Those who live and die by the maxim that you should not make a show of yourself, however, may find a plain and understated engagement ring band more to their liking. While these will not draw any compliments from random passers-by on the street, they give off an air of quiet sophistication and class and are often connoted with these rather desirable characteristics. Lovers who are prone to ‘keeping to themselves’ and who would rather know they love one another than share that knowledge with the world at large may be more attracted to this type of band than to more showy ones.

Furthermore, due to its discreet nature, this type of band is less of a liability when applying for jobs, for instance. Due to the unfortunate stigma described above, most employers will choose a candidate wearing a less noticeable band over the one with the flashier stone.

Ultimately, then, choosing which type of band for your ring is ultimately down to a matter of preference and personality. Both options have their pros and cons, and both will appeal to different demographics.

Frank L Orman is the founder of the F&L Designer Guides, compiled and written to help consumers choose a unique engagement ring design. From an engagement ring band to princess cuts and coloured stones, we have ideas and opinions covering all the options. Offering advice, tips and suggestions on how to choose that perfect ring, F&L will accompany you on every stage of your search to find the right designer.

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