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What Are The Effects of Fear In Divorce?

Author: Peter Hobler
by Peter Hobler
Posted: Oct 01, 2020

Are you a parent going through or having already gone through divorce?

How are you doing in the realm of your divorce? What is the greatest pain you are enduring? Are you concerned about the negative effects on your children?

Are you feeling beyond frustrated, angry, and anxious because you’re worried about what the ex will do or say next to make your life more miserable? Do you feel like this is all affecting your health?

What are you most afraid of? How are you dealing with this? Do you feel like you are constantly walking on eggshells?

Is there anything you can do that will help alleviate this overwhelming fear?

We are here to tell you, "YES, there is!"

My wife Laurie and I created The EX-Factor to help guide you to be able to create harmony after the split to nurture an environment where your children are thriving.

We have both been where you are. We’ve experienced the emotional trauma of divorce and seen the effect on our kids. We’ve worked with counselors and coaches, and we’ve done the work it takes to for personal growth. Now we’re passionately committed to be here for you, to serve as your guides, to help you navigate the turbulent waters of divorce.

Just what are the effects of fear when it comes to divorce?

Fear can be stifling because the tendency is to become consumed by your fear and it becomes your main focus. When you are unknowingly focused on your FEAR, you become more reactive.

When you gain Clarity for what you really want, you are able to develop heightened Awareness so you can stop, think things through, and start being proactive, i.e., to be rational and intentional so you can create more of what you really want, instead of more of what you do NOT want.

When you understand that what you focus on is what you get more of in return, you can create a shift to focusing on your newfound Clarity for what you DO want.

Being reactive will rarely get you more of what you really want, rather it will create more of what you do NOT want.

Think about it… when the ex suddenly gets angry at you, she/he has lost control of herself/himself, has lost control of the interaction with you, and you will never want to do what she/he wants you to do!

Likewise, when you react with anger at the ex, you have lost control of yourself, of the interaction, and the ex will never want to do what you want him/her to do!

If you’re at all like me, many of the aspects leading up to divorce came out of the blue, they were a complete shock. I was not prepared for any of it and ended up stuck in an extremely reactionary state.

I was finally able to STOP reacting after I gained true Clarity for what I really wanted for my then 3 year old daughter and the very next day STARTED to create a shift for how I handled things. Yes, I was able to stay calm and in self-control. Over the next few months, the underlying dynamics began to shift.

To gain Clarity, simply step up and go through my free Clarity Exercise. Go to:

The password to access is "clarity1"

You are here because you have the Awareness that things can be different. Commit to follow-through for the sake of your children.

STOP being caught up in the Vicious Cycle of Subconscious Fear and START being the best parent you can be so your kids are thriving.

About the Author

Mission: To help Entrepreneur Dads of Divorce realize they can create an environment of divorce where their children are thriving, even if the ex refuses to work together to co-parent.

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