Common Myths About Situationships

Today I want to share with you the 5 most common myths about situationships.

Before I learned these, getting into a committed relationship was a very complicated and draining process. I seemed to be putting tons of work and effort into it without getting anywhere.

Now things are different.

Getting into a committed relationship with Demi was easy, and it all started with breaking down these myths.

Myth #1) Asking for commitment will scare him off

This is probably the most common myth that I used to believe in the past: "If I tell him what I really want, he won’t want to date me anymore. So I’m better of just waiting for him to bring it up."

Now here is the truth. Asking for commitment is the best way to find out who is right for you.

Because the right one for you won’t be scared off, but the wrong one will.

Guess who brought up the commitment talk first. Me. And guess who was up to discuss it and think about it. Him.

Myth #2) I have to sleep with him for him to commit to me

I think you know by now that sex does not make a man commit. I found out the hard way.

Men don’t have to be emotionally connected to a woman to be intimate with her. But what is even worse, is that the act of sex often lowers their desire to commit to you.

Suddenly there is no more incentive.

What makes a man commit, on the other hand, is that emotional connection that doesn’t require any PHYSICAL ACTION on your part.

Myth #3) If I stick it out long enough, he will commit

This myth is often the reason why we get stuck in a situationship.

Rather than laying out our desire for a committed relationship from the beginning, we think we have to ease into it by being friends with benefits first.

Wrong.

A man needs to see you as girlfriend material right from the start. And the best way to show him is to not agree to a situationship.

Because men will assign the same value to you that you assign to yourself. So if you agree to settle for a half-ass relationship, you are telling him that’s all you want and all you deserve.

Unless you follow a proven strategy on how to go from situationship to relationship, chances are you will remain in the "friend with benefit" drawer.

So, I bet your next burning question is how you can get into a committed relationship the right way?

I'm glad you asked. You see, my current relationship started out as a situationship too. However, this time I learned how to go from situationship to relationship.

I used my proven strategy to go from casual to committed and succeeded.

If you want to learn more, I share the steps here: https://www.justinemfulama.com/relationships/what-is-a-situationship/

Hi, I'm Justine Mfulama, a dating and relationship coach. I love to share my advice on everything love and look forward to contribute on here.