What is the key to a wonderful relationship and a happy life?
Posted: Nov 28, 2021
Many of us are looking for a person with whom we can have a relationship that will fulfill us and make us happy.
This is one of the most common ways we search for happiness and fulfillment. You know the story.
You meet someone who seems perfect.
Everything is wonderful, life is suddenly full of color, joy, and flavor.
You decide to be together and enjoy life together.
There is not a cloud in your blue sky.
Then, after a while, it seems that your partner is no longer perfect. There are little frictions, little disagreements, you start to see that he has flaws too, not just qualities.
There follows a phase when, after the ecstasy of love, you return with your feet on the ground and face reality. What is the reality?
You have some ideas, preferences, habits, desires.
Surely you have some expectations from your partner.
He or she also has his or her ideals, preferences, habits, desires, and expectations.
The problem is that they do not completely overlap, and this can create a state of tension and conflict between you.
What is to be done?
There are many recipes for happy relationships, but I do not want to talk about them. I want to tell you what I believe is the key to a fulfilling relationship and a happy life in general.
This key is beyond all recipes and any recipe that does not contain it is doomed to failure.
The key is to take 100% responsibility for your life.
We will talk more about what that means and how to do it. Nothing that happens to you in life is random.
The universe works perfectly and does not favor or disadvantage anyone.
What exactly then explains the fact that in your life and in your relationships not only the things happen that you consciously want?
The cause of everything that happens in your life is not your conscious thoughts.
What creates your life is the contents of your subconscious mind, your subconscious programs.
They are constantly running and are like a reel of film that projects the reality that you are living.
In your subconscious mind are all your ideas, preferences, habits, desires, and expectations.
In addition, there are countless other programs that you are not aware of, but whose effects you experience every day.
Everything you live, including your relationship, has a source that lies directly within you. If something about your partner bothers you, it's not really about him or her.
It's just another program running in your subconscious mind, creating the impression that your partner is inappropriate in one way or another.
Up until now, you thought that the problems were somewhere outside of you and that you needed to do something to change that external cause.
You thought that you had to convince your partner by any means necessary to change so that you could be happy.
Has that worked so far? Asking someone else to change is like standing in front of a CD player playing a CD of songs you do not like and asking the device not to play those songs.
It will not work.
Now you have a choice
What would work would be to remove the CD from the device and delete the titles you do not like.
Then when you use the CD again, the songs that bother you will no longer play.
You may still want to believe that the problem is outside of you, your partner.
Or you can accept that the cause of the problem lies somewhere within you, and start working on the problem.
That means taking responsibility.
And responsibility brings you strength and freedom. When you take 100% responsibility, you have power and freedom, because you know that you can change anything that happens to you without depending on anyone else.
Could you ask for anything more than that?
By continually clearing subconscious programs, changes will occur in your relationship and your life.
You will become more and more aware that your happiness does not necessarily depend on your partner, but on yourself.
You will be more and more at peace with yourself and put less and less pressure on your partner, which will improve your relationship.
Some recurring situations will occur less often, and some may even eventually disappear.
As you free yourself more and more from programs, your perception will become clearer, less blurred.
You can begin to see your partner's qualities again and appreciate them for the perfect being they are.
Does this mean your relationship will become perfect?
It will definitely get much better, but not necessarily perfect.
But you will find a deeper and deeper peace within yourself and a greater and greater capacity to engage in love and gentleness.
If the current relationship is not the best for you, it can end and a more harmonious relationship can emerge because you have chosen to address the root causes of the problems.
Hello. Thank you for coming. My name is Alexandra Paraschiv. I am happy to be here. I am a coach, editor, and entrepreneur, and I am excited to share this valuable information with you...