From whom did you learn to be a woman?

A woman’s body is a miracle and a beauty, no matter what size it is. But how many women really see themselves and their bodies as beautiful or wonderful?

We are taught to judge ourselves in every possible way to reach some sort of a right image of what a woman is supposed to be. As we are growing up, there are many influences from women and men around us and the cultures that we live in. There are almost in all cultures a right - acceptable way of being a woman and a wrong - unacceptable way of being a woman. And we grow up with so many examples of women around us.

From whom did you learn to be a woman?

As a little girl how was your mother as a woman? Was she in total acknowledgement of the value of herself as a female? Was she happy in her own skin? How about other women in your environment? How were they commenting on women who were more flamboyant?

We are amazing replicators of the reality that we are born into and even when rebelling against something somewhere we may have a point of view that we may end up being like them. So we either resist to that or align and become a similar version of them while thinking we are so different.

Apart from who we are being as a woman we also learn about women’s bodies around us. There seems to be variety of the bodies we are attracted to or repelled by certain bodies. In the meantime, we are unaware that our bodies also are conscious beings and aware of all our thoughts, feelings and emotions on everything we see and experience.

We are never taught about our bodies being conscious, apart from our own awareness’s as beings. Our bodies also have awareness. For example, how do you and your body feel when you are around someone who judges others and bodies constantly? And how do you and your body feel when you are with someone who has no judgement of bodies or anyone? if you are lucky enough to have at least one person like this, remember how you are around that person? We perceive everyone and everything and so does our bodies.

Whatever we think about if we lock those judgements into it. What happens when you look in the mirror and start judging your wrinkles? You start seeing more wrinkles, right?

Your body receives it as something more to create. This is such an immense capacity. When we feel happy, it reflects on our bodies as well.

I will tell about one recent experience I had recently. I have gained about 10 kilos (about 20 pounds) this past year and I go to judgement quite often. When a person asked a question at a conference, a camera would focus on that person. So, the beautiful lady next to me was taking, and the cameras turned to her and I saw my reflection next to her and immediately felt like I saw my aunt when she were my age now. And the memory of when I was 5 or 6 years old immediately flashed when everyone around me was emphasizing that I looked exactly like my aunt and that I will be just like her when I grew up. I heard this so many times in my life that I did not realize it was implanted into my body. What my body looked like now was an implanted point of view I bought from so many other women around me about me looking just like my aunt.

And when you buy into those kinds of points of views you start creating it as your truth without cognitively realizing. As I realized that all my judgements have disappeared in that instant. Acknowledging something that is the truth frees you from the hold of that when it was being a secret and thus brings the change.

Ask yourself when you judge your body or judge yourself as a woman:

"Who does this (the judgements) belong to?"

"Who am I mimicking as a woman?"

"Who am I being in this instant?"

Just ask and let it go, do not look for answers. Awareness of it may pop in your consciousness and as you realize that majority of those judgements and behaviors patterns are not even yours but learned or bought from someone else the freedom starts. You can just imagine returning those to sender with consciousness attached.

The more you get rid of what is not yours, the more of you will come out.

And it is a delight and joy to be just you in your body. What else is possible with your body?

Happy International Women’s Day.

Aysegul Sevil is an Access Consciousness ® Certified Facilitator, she coaches people around the world to empower them to tap into their true knowing. Aysegul was born in Turkey and lived there for half of her life the other half in the USA.