How Yoga Made Me a Better Partner
Posted: Jun 17, 2017
Practicing yoga has many benefits. Better health, less stress and a better posture are only a few of them. If you are a yoga junkie like me, you know them all. But this article is not about the scientifically proven benefits of yoga.
There are already enough resources that discuss how amazing yoga is for your health. No, this article is different. I want to invite you to look at yoga from another perspective. I want you to think about what practicing yoga can do for your relationship.
Maybe you are single and you dream about finding the right partner. Maybe you just fell in love with someone and you pray every night that it’ll work out. Or maybe you are married for over a decade and you somehow miss the passion and love from the first two years.
It doesn’t matter where you are at in life. Yoga has the power to make you a better partner. I know this from my own experience. Please allow me to share them with you, so that you can also become a better human being and a better partner through the power of yoga…
Less Stress, Less Arguments
Most arguments between couples are attributable to stress. Whenever I was stressed, my relationship suffered. The connection was obvious.
You come home from work. You are feeling stressed and your head hurts. You just want to take a relaxing bath and forget all the things that happened in the office. You open the door to the living room and what do you see? Your husband and his best friend are watching football. They are screaming and laughing. They have a great time.
What about you? You are so stressed that you start an argument with your husband about how reckless he is. Deep down you know that it’s not his fault, but you are so stressed that you can’t control yourself anymore. The next morning you apologize for your behavior. You know that stress was the real cause of the argument.
Two days after the argument you decide to go to a yoga lesson. This was the last time that you had such an unnecessary argument with your husband.
Improving Your Physical Health Improves Your Relationship
Do you feel tired? Do you have problems to get out of bed?
It’s a bit embarrassing to admit, but I had problems to get out of bed and I’m only 27. My back pain is a genetic gift from my father. It’s terrible. There are days when I don’t want to get out of bed, and believe me when I say that the pain doesn’t get better after sitting in front of a laptop for hours.
Did my physical condition affect my relationship? Of course!
I didn’t have the energy to go on exciting dates. Whenever my girlfriend asked me if I wanted to travel somewhere, I wanted to hide under my blanket. I don’t say that everything changed after one yoga session, but practicing yoga deliberately and consistently allowed me to get rid of my pain and to enjoy my life and my relationship again.
You Become a Mindful Listener
I have to admit it. Yoga is not the only practice that helped me to become a better partner. I also used meditation to improve my relationship. The combination of yoga and meditation eventually helped me to become a mindful listener.
I became more relaxed, more focused and my ability to feel and think what my partner feels and thinks increased exponentially. I felt as if I had super powers.
Don’t get me wrong. I love my girlfriend and I always listen to what she says. But in case you are a woman, you know how men tend to listen. This changed once I practiced yoga. Now I listen and understand. No more misunderstandings, no more worries.
You Let Go of Negative Emotions
Yoga helped me to become a happier person and to let go of negative emotions. It also helped me to get rid of the one negative emotion that is known for destroying relationships and marriages: jealousy!
Everyone who has ever loved someone knows that jealousy is your biggest enemy. It’s a fear that terrorizes you without prior warning. It’s an emotion that makes you cry without a reason. Thanks to yoga I don’t feel jealous anymore. I know, it sounds crazy, but I let go of this negative emotion and replaced it with happiness and the feeling that I am enough. You can do the same.
Blood Pressure and Blood Sugar Can Not Only End Your Relationship
For me, the most beautiful thing in the world is when my girlfriend tells me that she loves me. It makes me happy. It makes me feel at peace.
Whenever she says the three magical words to me, I think about how grateful I am for having her. But I also think about something else. I think about our future and I pray that we’ll share many unforgettable moments with each other.
I guess you want the same. You also want to live a long and happy life with the person you love. The question is: What are you doing for it?
Look, practicing yoga didn’t just change my physical and mental health. It also made me a lot more self-conscious. It inspired me to change my diet and my habits.Now that I live healthier I know that enjoying a long and happy life with the woman of my dreams is more possible than ever before.
Alberto Guitron is a writer for BookYogaRetreats.com. He is a committed yoga practitioner equally passionate about blue ink and inversion yoga poses. Experienced in journalism and sportscasting.