Happier Relationships with Mindfulness

In our lives, we connect with many different people and often dealing with unfulfilled expectations. From a condescending boss to a spouse who simply doesn’t understand, we expect people to see and understand our perspective and more. However, most of us soon realize that it does not work that way.

In Love with Love

How often have we liked the other person, even fallen in love and thought that this person could be the most amazing person we’ve met?

How long did it last? An even if you have been in a relationship with the person for long, how has it changed over time?

Research shows that we are obsessed with the experience of loving someone and being loved in return. We project our feelings onto another but believe that the source of these feelings is that person. These projections make us experience pleasurable sensations that we wish would last forever. And since we consider the other person to be the source of this happy experience, we start expecting that person to keep fulfilling it thereafter. And this leads to unmet expectations, conflict and frustration.

This is further reinforced by advertising, movies, songs and other glamorized versions of romantic love.

Mindfulness for Happier Relationships

Mindfulness is about the ‘here and now’. It allows us to connect to our true self and our own inner source of happiness.

Mindfulness meditation helps us become aware of the thoughts, emotions and sensations that appear in our mind. It makes us better equipped to accurately perceive these concepts for what they are, without identifying with them. It is then that our true self is revealed.

By observing thoughts and emotions for what they are and understanding that others may have different thoughts and emotions, it becomes easier to let go of the mistaken perceptions we create about them.

Mindfulness also helps us connect with our own inner compassion and wisdom, which helps us cultivate a genuine ability to love. The understanding that these qualities are already within us and we need not project them onto others, avoids dependence and dissatisfaction.

We are complete as individuals and don’t need another to complete us. When we connect with another person from this place, we can connect better with an attitude of satisfaction and appreciation, rather than depending on them to fulfill our needs.

For mindfulness meditation and private yoga classes, get in touch with the leading stress coach in San Francisco, The Big Yogi, Nick Palladino, at nick@thebigyogi.com or call 707-293-5415. Nick inspires, teaches and leads others towards their own light and life purpose. You can choose from Nick’s one-on-one private lessons or corporate classes to cultivate mindfulness and relieve stress as an advanced teacher comes to you.

Meditation classes and private yoga classes, get in touch with the leading stress coach online in San Francisco, The Big Yogi