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Tricky ways to approach a girl you don't know and impress her

Author: Sophie Espionage
by Sophie Espionage
Posted: Mar 17, 2019

Every guy has been in the same position at some point in his life: He sees an attractive girl and wants to strike up a conversation, but he's just too afraid or nervous to waltz up and jump right in. The more beautiful the girl, the more difficult it is. Yet for many men, just talking to any girl he doesn't know can be an ordeal worse than giving a public speech.

Approach the girl armed without fear of rejection. If you are rejected, depending on your taste, there are still other potential dates. Rejection does not mean the end of your dating life, but staying focus on the fear of rejection can limit your confidence Don't fear rejection -- embrace the possibility of acceptance.

Learn the secret of confidence. When walking up to talk to a girl, exude confidence. Walk with your shoulders back and look her in the eye as you approach. Talk without fumbling and mumbling, no matter how nervous you are. Confidence shows that you are assured in yourself, but also sends the message that you are certain that you're interested in a girl you're approaching.

Do approach a girl if she is sitting/standing and looks relaxed. People who are in a positive mood and show open body language tend to be more willing to have conversations.

Do if you’ve noticed her sending several glances and/or smiles your way. If this happens, she likely is interested in you and wants you to start a conversation.

Don’t approach a girl if she looks upset. Chances are if she is having a bad day, she’s not going to respond positively to getting hit on by a stranger.

Don’t approach a girl if she is deeply preoccupied with something. Interrupting her won’t make a good first impression.

When you make eye contact with someone, it triggers the production of oxytocin, aka "the cuddle hormone." While the amount generated from eye contact won’t create any strong feelings of closeness, it does establish a sense of trust with the girl you’re talking to, making her more willing to have a conversation.

Women, more so than men, are typically on guard when surrounded by strangers. Approaching a woman from behind or the front can be intimidating because she fears being attacked. Instead, slowly approach girls from a side angle so they can see you coming and prepare for your presence, rather than be startled by it.

Women’s brains are programmed to read men’s body language. From the moment you approach them, their subconscious is analyzing the way you hold your body and your every move to decide how they feel about you.

This is something that can work very well at a bar, as long as you’ve already built the eye staring up and roused her interest. Buy her the same drink she’s already having, and ask the waiter to offer it to her. The waiter will probably drop a corny and grand message like "the gentleman sitting over there would like to offer you this drink.


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