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5 Ways to Better Connect With People As An Introvert

Author: Jennifer Kropf
by Jennifer Kropf
Posted: Dec 06, 2022
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As an introvert, connecting with strangers or building deep relationships can seem daunting. What may come easily to others causes anxiety for you. Instead of letting your fear get in the way of making connections with people, put these tips in your social toolbox for whenever you need them to feel confident and open around people.

"As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others." –Marianne Williamson

  1. Get out of your comfort zone

Easier said than done, I know. But in order to reach others, you have to take the first step. Here’s a tip: instead of awkwardly forcing yourself out of your comfort zone at a large party or unfamiliar place, practice building confidence with yourself by doing small things first. For example:

  • Push yourself on your clothing choices (wear a two-piece swimsuit, heels, etc.)

  • Try a new recipe

  • Ask for a discount

  • Commit to saying hi to everyone you meet on your next walk

  • Order a new coffee drink at your favorite coffee place

  1. Ask questions

The easiest way to get to know someone better is to ask them questions. This allows them the opportunity to speak and you just have to listen! You'll learn a lot about a person by asking the right questions, but remember, the same questions may be asked of you so be sure to be just as open in your communication (this is how sincere conversations get started!).

Not sure what questions to even ask? Use this big list of unique questions to get a conversation started: Great get to know someone better questions

  1. Be yourself

I never said these tips were easy. If you want to build relationships then you must be your authentic self. If you’re not, the connection isn’t real and will never last.

So if you love foraging in the wilderness, find a group that enjoys spending time hiking or camping. If someone asks what you do as a hobby, don’t be afraid to share (and explain). If you don’t like to drink, don’t keep meeting that co-worker for after work drinks. Don’t enjoy shaking peoples hands? Find a new way to greet people. You get the idea!

  1. Compliment

Who doesn’t like to hear a compliment?! This is a fun and sweet way to create connections with new or old friends. Sincerely complimenting someone is an easy way to reach out to other people, build bonds and help others feel good about themselves.

"I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued." –Dr. Brene Brown

  1. Physical connection

Verbal communication is how you start a conversation–nonverbal communication is how you build a relationship. You have to feel and show that you are connecting with the other person and vice versa. Use these tips to reflect over your own body language cues when you’re trying to connect:

  • Make eye contact

  • Smile

  • Pay attention

  • Keep your arms uncrossed

  • Actively listen

Everyone needs to feel a connection with someone, but it’s not always comfortable or easy to do so. Take small steps to build your confidence and use these 5 helpful ways to better connect with people.

About the Author

Jenn writes at her blog healthyhappyimpactful.com. She’s a mom of three looking to learn and grow. Check it out if you love helpful tips on health, family, and personal growth.

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