Talking to a Loved One About Weight Loss Surgery

Struggling with obesity is a challenge when it’s your body that is doing the struggling. But it can be just as challenging to watch someone you love face that struggle. You can watch them yo-yo through a variety of diet and exercise programs without finding success, watch them as they become diagnosed with conditions that are completely connected with their obesity, and watch as their self-esteem and zest for life decreases by the day. Worst of all, you know if that they don’t find a way to lose the weight and keep it off, they are at risk for an early death. This can be tough to ignore and sometimes when we are particularly close to someone as with a spouse or sibling, we may choose to speak up and say something even if it risks an awkward conversation or hurt feelings.

Weight loss surgery may not be something that your loved one may have ever considered. But chances are they have considered it and are just too intimated or scared to make the first step. By reaching out to them to validate their struggle and offer your support in whatever they choose to do, you may be opening the door for them to make more comfortable choices for their weight and longterm health.

So how do you start that conversation in a way that leads with love and your care for your loved one’s health?

Have a private conversation. This is a very personal conversation that does not require multiple parties. By speaking privately with your loved one, you are giving them the space to hear you without the potential embarrassment of having other people involved.

Ask, don’t tell. When bringing up the topic of weight loss surgery, ask your loved one if they may have considered having surgery, rather than telling them that they need to consider it. Sometimes just opening up the door for a conversation, can be all your loved one needs to get the ball rolling.

Be prepared to back off. Sometimes people are simply not ready to hear what is being said. So if you are given the feeling that you need to back off the topic, or are told outright, then respect that request. Chances are you will still have been heard and sometimes just expressing your concern is enough for someone to start thinking about what’s next for them.

About AuthorOne of the most experienced weight loss surgeons in the country – Dr. Nick Nicholson – along with a full staff of surgeons, nurses and other experienced clinicians, help patients reverse obesity with LAP-BAND, Gastric Bypass, Sleeve Gastrectomy and Revisions.

Dr. Nicholson knows that you are unique. So he and his staff only perform specialized, custom-tailored weight loss solutions that put you, the patient, first. Becoming thoroughly acquainted with the various options, Lap Band, Gastric Bypass, Gastric