When Your Partner Criticizes You — How Should You Reply?

We all have self-respect because we know that if we do not respect ourselves, no one else will respect us. But what if our life partner starts criticizing us? And what are the main points keeping in mind which can help us answer the criticism made towards ourselves?

When our partner criticizes us, then our morale constantly goes down, and we start thinking that whatever work we do is not right, due to which we can go into depression and lose confidence. That’s why if criticism has become an issue in your relationship, it’s important to root it out before the problem gets worse.

In these 6 ways, you can respond to the criticism made towards you -

1. Do not reply immediately — If your partner is making any negative comment against you, then do not answer him immediately, listen to him, and then answer with patience.
2. Talk slowly — If you are arguing with your partner on a topic, talk slowly while arguing and tell them how you feel when you are criticized. Instead of saying (‘You are like’, ‘You do this’, ‘You do like’) you can say (‘I want this’, ‘I want like this’, ‘ I think’, ‘I would like’).
3. Try to know the reason behind the criticism — Know the reason behind the criticism, and find out whether you are right in your place or there is something that needs to be changed.
4. Ask questions — When you are being criticized, and you are trying to answer, then start with questions, do not go into attack mode. It is easy to go into attack mode but it can ruin the relationship.
5. Avoid Miscommunication — Communicate over the phone or in person to avoid miscommunication. Because miscommunication can create distance in your relationship, and misunderstandings can arise towards each other.

6. Talk to the Professionals — It happens many times, in arguments, things go so far that we don’t know what to do next. Because there is no one to listen to us, In such cases, we should take the help of a professional relationship expert or psychologist, Because only a good psychologist can tell us how to handle such a situation without harming our relationship. You may also prefer taking online relationship counseling sessions which is another convenient way of connecting with a counselor.

Hope this information will be useful to you and will help you in countering the criticism made against you.

I am therapy specialist, and working with BetterLyf Wellness Pvt. Ltd. provides online counseling platform to people struggling with mental health disorders.