6 Things you should say to your child every day!

Parents are the biggest pillar of support in any child’s life because it is always that they look up to their parents in most cases when any hard moment of moments of dejections come into their life. That is why it is important for the parents to always instill a positive mindset or an overall positive lookout for life within their children. This is something that cannot be achieved in a single day but is sort of more of a continuous process that has to be carried out from very long years of birth and gradually growing up. It is a process that we make them feel and not just make them learn. So, how do we do it?

The answer seems quite simple, with the practice of saying these simple things sooner or later, your kids will grow that confidence and develop a relatively healthy and positive nature, and also that would be a lot helpful in the build-up of a healthy parent-child relationship, that sometimes is lacking in the society.

1. "I am proud of you"

This is something that every child wants to listen to from their parents and hearing those words are like pure nectar. Being parents, you should not just save your "I am proud of you" only when they have achieved something really very big or some mammoth experience but what would make them happier and give them a sense of contentment is when even their little efforts also make you proud as parents and that is why when your child performs any good deed or any noble act, appreciate them, make sure to convey to them how much their little deed or effort has made you a proud parent. Also, it has been scientifically proved that when you say such statements as " I am proud of you" it releases some chemical in the brain that helps them remember that their action and makes them do such sort of act regularly.

2. "I Love You"

Everybody is aware of the fact that "I love you" is the universal love language. Expressing your love is something everyone loves and when it comes to your own children they love it beyond anything else. Try expressing your love towards your child with frequent ‘I love you’s’ and see how they build and grow their confidence to leaps and bounds. Saying this from the initial years of their growth is helpful for them when they grow up because this will give them huge emotional stability and will also make them feel safer and closer to their parents.

3. "I believe in you"

This is another thing that works wonders when a child hears it. Being believed by your parents is one of the best feelings. Being trusted by your own parents regarding small things can build a lifelong impression in your ward. That is when you show that level of trust in your child regarding events in their life, they will also grow a tendency not to breach that trust or even they will feel it wrong morally to misuse that trust. Saying "I believe in you" raise the confidence of your child and lets them to achieve great success in their lives.

4. "What’s your opinion on this?"

This is another important thing to ask your children. When kids know that they are valued and seen not as "silly kids with silly things to say," but as people who have an important viewpoint, they are more likely to share the thoughts filling their minds. It’s so easy to disregard what kids say about their lack of life experience and knowledge about the world at large. But kids are perceptive and have real insight to share about life from their altitude. Asking for your child’s opinion also creates a safe space for conversation. We all learn through trial and error. It’s important to allow your kids to help make decisions sometimes. It can be as simple as asking their input for dinner, or even in making weekend plans. Their ideas may not be what you would have chosen, they may make decisions that don’t make perfect sense to you, and it may not even work out, but being allowed to have a say is good practice for them and will help make your kid feel important and heard.

5. "It’s ok. Mistakes happen."

It is very important to let your kids have the feeling that they have someone who they can rely on if they commit some mistake. Give them that comforting shoulder or that look of comfort when you can tell them that mistakes are a part and parcel of life and mistakes are nothing but the best teachers. So instead of blaming or scolding your children every time they make some mistake, try to say "it’s okay. Mistakes happen" for even once, and definitely you will see the desired change in your and your child’s relationship.

6. "without you our family is not complete"

This is something that your child should feel because if they do not feel appreciated or the fact that they are a part of the family where they are loved, he or she might have trouble when they grow up because these types of things leave a great impact of the mind of the child. A troubled childhood may lead to a long-lasting scar on the person’s mind. Thereafter it is the duty of the parents to create that level of comfort in the child by saying these comforting words. It is with years of such practice that the child will feel loved and respected within the family and will eventually be empathetic towards everyone.

Thus by now, you can practice some of these things to ensure your child feels loved because being a parent is not an easy job. They try to choose the best for their children and thus these can also be some practices to follow, because this is a slow process and not something to be attained in a day. But with the practices of such phrases, the relationship between you and your ward will strengthen.

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